When you have to face bereavement

Noone likes bad news, no matter how small or big but they are plenty around. When we hear  bad news, we listen and learn; we comfort and care; extend out hands where we can and that is all that we can do.

When we have to face bereavement of someone closed to us, seeing them going through the process and listening to the last things of the deceased can be quite a learning process for those of us who are still living. There are always lessons to be learnt; new things that we learn !

Once, I heard a speaker said, as you get older and start to work, you will get more and more engagement and wedding invitations; this is followed by baby fullmoon and baby 1,2,3 etc years birthday celebration invitation! As years go by, you start to get calls to pray for someone very sickly; attend the funeral wake, memorial and funeral services. It should not surprise you that the latter ones do not have invitation, you choose to go as you think suitable and there will be more and more of it !

The first few memorial services were very traumatic experience, a mix of fear and unknown. Then, the heart hardened and lost in the midst of the living and the dead ! I came to know a very certain fact that we all dont like :-

Life and death is as certain as sun rise and sun set;
As the sun rise from the east, it shall set at he west;
As life begins at birth, it shall return to the Creator when it dies !
The difference between the living and the dead is disparing to know :-
Some died very prepared; some died without preparation;
Some live very well planned; some live wihtout nay planning !
The choice is in our hand !